The path less traveled

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“Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of ever lasting life.” – Psalm 139:24 NLT

I like to think of myself as a Giants football fan by association.  This means I have no idea who the players are or how the game is actually played but because my sister is a die hard fan, I’m also a Giants supporter. I’m the person asking a thousand questions during a game and yelling “yessss” at the most insignificant times. But nonetheless, I’m a fan by association. If there’s anything I’ve learned with the football season just a month away, is how offense and defense works in a game. To put it simply, the team with the ball is on offense trying to score points while defense is the opposing team trying to stop offense from scoring a touchdown. Which side are you on? 
By definition, offense is that which serves as a hindrance or obstacle.
In Psalm 139:24, the Psalmist David is essentially praying to God and he says God, “point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of ever lasting life.” If you’ve ever been offended by someone then you know how powerful an offense is. They stir up and provoke uncomfortable feelings that can cause someone to shut down, fight back, ignore, or run. But if they aren’t addressed, they will fester and become a hindrance or an obstacle to you. Offenses essentially tell us something is wrong and it needs to be repaired or restored. In the spiritual sense, being on offense, you automatically attract defense which hinders you from scoring spiritual goals. Being on offense you are carrying a burden that was never meant for you to carry. If you are carrying an offense against someone, it needs to be addressed because that offense will serve as a hindrance and an obstacle from you achieving your goals and reaching spiritual maturity. It will stop you from learning very vital lessons about yourself. They will cripple your ability to have healthy friendships and relationships. An offense can be something within you that isn’t allowing you to move forward.
For me, it was something I recently needed to address with someone in my family. This person hurt me in the past and that hurt wasn’t allowing me to have a healthy relationship with them. Every time I prayed, I didn’t feel close to God because there was this issue I wasn’t facing. When I finally addressed it, I was able to see that I too had some things within me that needed work. God was using the facing of that offense to refine me and heal me! When you face your offenses, you clear the pathway toward righteousness. When you do this, there is nothing hindering or obstructing your view.
How offenses hinder us:

  1. Harboring offenses mask how you’re really feeling by giving you a false sense of security.
  2. Offenses cloud your vision.
  3. Offenses stunt communication.
  4. Offenses attract defense which serve as obstacles toward achieving your God-given goals and dreams.
  5. Offenses limit you from having a healthy relationship with the Lord and with loved ones. They make you feel like you’ve been separated from God. This is a lie because there is NOTHING that can separate you from God but offenses can cloud your vision and hinder you from getting full access into wholeness and spiritual victory.
  6. Offenses will weigh you down and make you feel prideful. They will make you feel like you’re carrying a burden greater than yourself but also make you feel as if you’re too proud to surrender to God.
Identifying your offenses requires a willingness to learn about yourself and the truth is, there are some things you won’t like. But it is necessary to know because then you access freedom from your offenses and your vision becomes clear.
How to work through offenses
  1. Ask God to reveal to you what needs work within you and what area of your life needs healing.
  2. Identify any feelings of discomfort toward a particular thing, situation, or person. This is a huge indicator that there is an underlying offense. Once you identify them, surrender them to the Lord.
  3. Explore if there is someone you need to forgive or ask for forgiveness from. Forgiving someone requires strength and courage while asking for forgiveness requires self-awareness and humility. When you do this, you are identifying the very thing that may be offending God within you! God is a God of unity and reconciliation. If there is division in an area of your life, call it out!
  4. Be willing to go on a journey of self-reflection, self-acceptance, and most importantly self-love.
  5. Open a line of communication with yourself by writing out what triggers you emotionally and how you can respond in a healthy way.
Reflection: Is there something offensive within you that you need to address? What is hindering you or serving as an obstacle in your life and stopping you from being whole? In what ways can you work through your offenses?
Let’s explore this together! Email me to my personal email and let’s talk about it. 🙂 My email isNeli.Betancourt@outlook.com 

You are equipped

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“By day the LORD went ahead of them in a pillar of cloud to guide them on their way and by night in a pillar of fire to give them light, so that they could travel by day or night.”
‭‭Exodus‬ ‭13:21‬ ‭NIV‬‬

God provided for the Israelites to travel by DAY or NIGHT. It doesn’t matter the time of day, the season, the amount of light there is or lack thereof, ; you have the resources to travel by day OR night. God doesn’t leave His children without. There is NOTHING stopping you from continuing forward. You cannot make excuses for something you already have. God has equipped you for the journey, it’s up to you to use the resources. Locate the cloud and find the pillar of fire, this is your heavenly compass. You have it in your spiritual tool box. You have your faith, your godly confidence, your resilience, your experiences. Let me encourage you today that you are NOT stuck. You are equipped to move forward.

Life Planner

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Three years ago, my sister got me my first planner. To be honest, I didn’t know what the hype was but the moment, I opened it up and started planning out my days and decorating each week, I fell in love! I decided to do this post because so many girls always ask me where my planner is from and it always brings me so much joy to let them in on my planner addiction. Fellow planner addicts know you just can’t stay shut about it. 🙂

My very first planner was the Erin Condren one and I thought I would never trade her in. But these planners are on the pricier side ranging from $50-$55 so the following year, I was on the hunt for a functional, pretty, and cheaper planner. This is when I found The happy planner which range from $20-$35. I loved her too! But of course, my inner planner addiction was just searching for something more. Something that was more interactive and christian based. This is when someone told me about The horacio printing planner. This planner has genuinely been my favorite thus far!!!

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When I first got her in the mail, I was obsessed. I fell in love immediately and couldn’t wait to find something, anything, to write in the pages. The planner I got is The lovely planner. It’s hardcover with gold coil binding and opens up to a little message from the creator Polly, which is super cute. But what I love so much about this planner is how interactive it is!

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Before going into the actual week-to-week and month-to-month planning section, there are pages dedicated to exercises of dream planning, a yearly bucket list, a refocus cloud, generosity planning, a heart check, and even a list for your fears. This planner got me thinking about my present spiritual life and how it’s reflecting on my everyday daily life. I was able to sit down and pray through my God-given dreams and goals to visualize how to accomplish them. But what was even greater, is how this planner includes a page where I can write out what is distracting me from putting forth the action to achieve my dreams and goals. I loved how where you list your fears, you can also write out a verse to counteract that fear because the truth is, we need reminders. A professor once told my class that God doesn’t help you remember what you first haven’t forgotten so this planner helps me remember. It doesn’t just help me keep track of classes, appointments, goals, homework, papers, to-do lists, exams, birthdays, and important dates but it helps me remember the things that truly matter; the people I love, the things that influence my spiritual life, the dreams I have, and the things I should do more of. It helps me prioritize and manage my time wisely without overemphasizing my schedule but what God wants me to do with the time He’s given me.

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I love how it also includes monthly praise reports! This is so essential because it helps build a heart of gratitude and praise which is crucial for a healthy christian life. It also has bible verses on each page which is a major plus.

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If there is one thing I love most about this planner is how minimal it is because you can just decorate away to your hearts content. I love stickers, washi tape, and colorful pens so this is great. I get my stickers and notepads from michaels, etsy, and target. I get all of my washi tape from michaels as well.

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If you’re looking for an interactive, christian based, functional, pretty planner then I highly suggest the horacio printing planner! Not to mention that 10% of ALL sales goes towards fighting human trafficking efforts; I mean, how awesome is that!

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I recommend this planner to moms-on-the-go, students, people with super busy schedules, the average 9-5 working girl, and anyone who loves planning! This planner is for everyone 🙂

Walk with me

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6:45 AM alarm nudges me awake. So I wake up. Shower. Pray. Make lunch. Get ready. And rush out the door. This is my Monday through Friday morning schedule. 10 times out of 10, I’m always running late. But the odd thing is, before this job, I was an on-time punctual kinda girl. At the onset of this job, I was that girl. The kind that shows up bright eyed and fresh faced half an hour early with a smile on my face. The kind that sings through the Monday morning blues and laughs through the Thursday afternoon anticipation. But something shifted the more time I spent at this office and while I am filled with gratitude to have had this job, my morning glow has faded. I’ve become that always-rushing-to-work typical New Yorker. And I hate it.

I hate rushing past the freshly bloomed tulips on the corner. I hate looking down at the concrete as my feet hit the pavement. I hate missing the clear blue skies after a rainy yesterday. I hate missing the faces waiting for the infamous G train. I hate ignoring the guy drawing on the train or the girl painting her face with concealer with a dog between her feet. I hate not being in the moment.

As I was quickly walking down to the train this morning at the exact time I had to be at work, my head was full of thoughts. My round eyes caught the sight of the orange and yellow tulips but I didn’t take it in. My legs were doing a fast dance with the rain as if I were competing in a salsa show. And my brain was full to the brim with thought after thought and it was exhausting. The kind of exhausted that grabs you after you’ve jogged 5 miles on an 85 degree sunny morning.

In a split second, I had the most challenging thought I’ve had in a while. I felt Jesus ask me, “What if I were walking with you right now?” Just like that, I slowed down and pictured Jesus walking to the right of me. God challenged me in that moment to be in the here-and-now; in the present. And as I became intentional about walking with Jesus, I felt such peace. There is something powerful about walking with  a friend and allowing yourself to be in the moment. You see and hear things differently. You experience life in a whole new light.

I walked down the stairs into the subway station and I saw the girl with the lavender hair. I heard the conductors voice loud and clear, “Next stop, metropolitan avenue.” I saw the rain drops quickly falling. I was in the present not threatened by my every thought. In that moment, all that mattered was I was walking with Jesus. When Jesus was with His disciples, He walked with them. They talked and walked. They laughed and walked. They walked together. They were doing life together as they walked. They were all in the moment, in the here-and-now, in the present. They didn’t allow life’s demands to cloud their relationship with the Lord. They were intentional about spending time with Jesus. In the same way, we have to be intentional. We have to make time at this time, right now.

If there is one thing I’ve learned from group therapy, which is a requirement for my group therapy class; it’s how powerful it is to bask in the moment. In the moment is where working through happens. In the here-and-now is where you can feel what you feel. In the present is where you have the potential for growth, for healing, for love.

My question to you today is: if you were walking with Jesus, would that change your pace?

City Lights

1. Visit the Empire State Building & take a selfie with my city ✔️
Being a born and bred New Yorker, you don’t do the typical touristy things. You don’t ride the elevator to the top of the Empire State Building & you don’t take the next boat leaving for the Statue of Liberty. But I’ve always loved to be a tourist in my own city. So yesterday I got to check off number one from my list of goals. I got to go to the very top of the Empire State Building with my friend & her son & the view was so incredible. Gods mind is so limitless to have been able to give people the knowledge to create such a complex city.

“for, “Who has known the mind of the Lord so as to instruct him?” But we have the mind of Christ.”‭‭ – 1 Corinthians‬ ‭2:16‬ ‭NIV

So I thought I’d share some of my adventure from last night because I even got to catch the sunset!


How cool is this photo? Has a vintage 1940’s kinda feel. Thank God for filters! Lol

I mean seriously! Do ya’ll see this view?!


“Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?” – ‭Matthew‬ ‭6:27‬ ‭NIV‬‬

I think what Jesus is trying to say is to be present in the moment. Let yourself be in the here and now without overwhelming yourself with the possibilities of tomorrow. Sometimes you have to gain a new and different perspective in order to appreciate the view. That’s exactly what I did last night; I was able to not worry about anything and bask in the stillness of the breathtaking views. Because sometimes we are so caught up in the hustle and bustle of day to day life that we forget to just be in the moment.

As always, be encouraged, be blessed, and be empowered! 🙂

Let Him be enough


As I was reading my word this morning: Matthew 19:29 jumped out at me.

It says, ““And everyone who has given up houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or property, for my sake, will receive a hundred times as much in return and will inherit eternal life.” ”

Jesus is speaking to his disciples about the dangers of hanging on to money, wealth, & possessions more than hanging on to God. It’s easy to say that we’ll give up everything for God but it’s so much harder to actually carry out. It’s hard to let go of every earthly thing to gain all that Christ has to offer. To put it simply, Christ has given us the greatest gift: life; but more importantly eternal life in greatness. But because we love what we can see and grasp, it’s hard to drop the very things that are holding us back from grabbing all of Jesus here on earth. So I started thinking & I asked God to show me that His son dying for me was more than enough. And I wrote out this prayer:

Father God, show me that your son Jesus Christ dying for me on the cross is more than enough; that even if you don’t bless me with another thing, that I would be overjoyed because I have you & because I have a relationship with you, Jesus. – In Jesus’ name, amen.

So my prayer is that we would all learn to ‘Let God be enough’ no matter the circumstance . . .

Protect your Heart

As I grow closer to Christ, one resounding lesson has been made apparent to me: guard your heart. To be honest, I thought I knew how to guard my heart but the more I prayed, I realized I didn’t. So I set out on an adventure with Jesus to find out how to guard my heart. But every timed I prayed, I never asked God. So one humbling moment in prayer, I gently felt God tell me, “just ask”. So I simply asked God, “how do I guard my heart?” At first I didn’t want to listen because I thought I had the answer (yes, I can be stubborn); but soon enough, I remembered the only way to know Gods heart is to dive into His promising word.

When you analyze the heart, it’s the most vital organ within the human body. It’s the organ that pumps and circulates blood to the rest of the organs. Essentially speaking, it’s the control center, the command room. If the heart is responsible for making sure the blood is flowing to and from, then it is crucial that it is guarded.

Proverbs 4:23 says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

Just as the blood flows from within us so do our thoughts, actions, devotions, passions, and loves. So essentially what we devote our hearts to is what will flow from the inside out. In Ezekiel 20:16, it says, “. . . For their hearts were devoted to their idols.” The Israelites, Gods chosen people, had completely abandoned God & His love for them. They chose to set their sights on idols. They chose to devote their time to worshipping idols instead of setting their hearts on heavenly things. Sometimes we think that idols have to be elaborate statues made of gold but in this day and age, idols can be anything. They can be something as subtle as a T.V. show. It can even be a person, a hobby, gossip, or an addiction. Idols come in all shapes and forms and they certainly don’t discriminate. So if we allow our hearts to idolize and worship things that are not of God, then we aren’t guarding our hearts.

In Matthew 6:21, Jesus says, “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” If you treasure worthless things, things that do not have value; if you worship people or relationships, then you will bear no good fruit. As Gods chosen, he calls us to abandon all forms of idolizing because it stands in the way of your relationship with Jesus. And if something stands in the way of you and God then that “thing” or “person” isn’t allowing you to bear good fruit that glorifies God.

Our hearts thoughts are what lead to our actions. So if what we treasure isn’t leading to good action then we aren’t guarding our hearts. In Matthew 12: 34-35, Jesus says, “. . . For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in him, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in him.” If your heart is full of anger, jealousy, hatred, and pride then what you do will reflect that. Your actions will be drenched in the things that anger and pride produces. But if your heart is full of love, joy, and peace then your actions will be just that. You’ll give generously to those in need, you’ll abandon all pride and forgive freely. But this can only come through guarding your heart. If we don’t guard our hearts, then we aren’t allowing God to free us, teach us, mold us, and love on us, so that we may help and serve others. Because essentially guarding our hearts is crucial, so that we may better serve those that God places in our lives.

In Galatians 5: 13, it says, “You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.” Love comes from God and it flows through the heart, so in order for that to happen, we need to filter what enters into our hearts by what we entertain and who we hang around with. I remember growing up my father used to tell me this: “tell me who you hang around with and I’ll tell you who you are.” What you surround yourself with, more often than not, is what influences you greatly. What is around you will eventually enter into your heart and mind and in turn, will be what you also put out.

In order to guard your heart, the most vital part within you that gives you all direction, it needs to be undivided. Psalm 86: 11 says, ” . . . Give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name.” When the heart is divided, it cannot focus on heavenly things above. It cannot function well enough to circulate the things of God. The heart is where everything springs from so if it is contaminated by division, it is not guarded. Division is not of God. He unifies and in order to do that, we need to be willing to set our sights on one thing: God. Once we set our focus on God, positivity, freedom, love, peace, joy, light, and unity begin to flow from within us. Colossians 3:1 says, “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God.” If Jesus is in heaven on His glorious throne, then that is where our hearts should be rooted. That is how we guard our hearts.

Philippians 4:7 says, “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” The peace that Jesus gives is like a veil that covers our hearts. We need to allow God to place that veil over our hearts so that He may filter all that comes through it. He will instruct you in His ways on what to keep within your heart and what to throw away.

You guard your heart by:

1] Devoting your heart to God

2] Allowing Gods peace, through Jesus, to guard your heart.

3] Keeping an undivided heart

All of this comes from spending quality time with God. That quality time can only be centered through prayer which is simply talking to God, reading His word, and spending time with people that are also after Gods heart.

I pray that this would encourage you to guard your heart because it is where God does his best work within you. And when you allow God to work on you from the inside out, then what you do reflects Jesus’ love to the outside world.

With love & many blessings 🙂